Many divisions plague the Orthodox Jewish community, and many efforts at solidarity work to unite us. We need one more such effort. It will not be a new organization, a new program or a new publication. It will cost no money. It will require a spiritual reorientation.<\/p>\n
I\u2019ve davened in a variety of shuls, in several cities and on two continents. The one thing I noticed in all these places was that in shul I felt part of the Jewish people. I didn\u2019t give it a second thought. Which other group would I feel a part of while davening? But over the past twenty years or so I developed what I can only call that \u201cpre-conscious\u201d feeling. On some remote level I became vaguely aware of a breakdown in the solidarity I used to feel when I went to shul. This feeling slowly rose to consciousness as I traveled around the country and observed a certain change.<\/p>\n
That change was age.<\/p>\n
More and more, I noticed that I was davening with people who were, more or less, my own age and that others\u2014of my children\u2019s age, for example\u2014were also davening with people who were, more or less, their own age.<\/p>\n
With due allowance for exceptions, I noticed that new criteria seemed to have emerged for what is considered a \u201cgood\u201d minyan. We are familiar with the old criteria: kavanah, geographical proximity, the level of scholarship or eloquence of the rabbi, the style of davening, the quality of the Keriyat haTorah, et cetera. The new criteria seem to be davening with people of one\u2019s own age, not feeling comfortable with davening with people not of one\u2019s own age and gravitating toward shuls or minyanim of one\u2019s coevals.<\/p>\n
This is not a good idea. Not good spiritually, nor pedagogically. How is a child supposed to learn to honor the aged, the seniors, the people connected to a previous generation, if he sees only a few of them\u2014or none\u2014as he davens? So much of what is passed from one generation to the next is unstated, non-verbal, a matter of spirit, of wisdom, communicated at least as much by gesture as by word. What possible benefit is there to cutting off a child (or, for that matter, an adult) from this in shul?<\/p>\n
What kind of message are we sending to the Holy One, Blessed be He, if we must be with \u201cour own\u201d when we daven?<\/p>\n
A generation is a fruitful category of historical analysis. The Generation of 1914, by Robert Wohl, is one of the finest books I have ever read. I come back to it, again and again. Here is his argument, vastly oversimplified: Wohl observes that the generation that went through World War I suffered a radical break in sensibility from their parents. In fact, the use of the term \u201cgeneration\u201d as a category of history owes much of its genesis to the generation of 1914. It set a new agenda for history, poetry, politics and more.<\/p>\n
This is understandable. This is what generations do. It is no different today, and no different in the Jewish community. Nor need it be. To associate with people with whom one has a common tongue, an instinctive mutuality, is one of the joys of being alive.<\/p>\n
But shul is different. Shul is where we grow, where we stretch our boundaries, where, by definition, our davening is supposed to take us beyond our inherent level of connection.<\/p>\n
Shul is supposed to be the place where the different sensibilities of the different generations can instruct one another and, yes\u2014please forgive the clich\u00e9\u2014unify us. Shul is supposed to enable generations to face and refine each other; it is the place where the very young learn how to look up to their elders, where the elders take joy from the very young and where those of the varying stages in between learn to benefit from both. Shul is the place where the people who encamped at Sinai, \u201cas one person with one heart,\u201d can experience ineradicable solidarity.<\/p>\n
In society, generally, age is feared. Old is bad. This is especially true as people live much longer, and as decrepitude occurs\u2014and is visible\u2014far more than when the expected lifespan was sixty-five. Now it is common for people to live into their nineties\u2014and to decline slowly. The need to daven with \u201cone\u2019s own\u201d is, in part, an assimilationist impulse, an absorption of society\u2019s fear of aging.<\/p>\n
No one denies that to age, or to witness others age, is sometimes difficult\u2014which is all the more reason for the community to break down the emerging age-based barriers that separate us when we select a place to daven.<\/p>\n
Not to mention that a weekly observation of the elderly and the process of aging provides lifelong lessons. One learns that a person may scale unimaginable heights\u2014or may waste one\u2019s life. In observing how the children of the elderly treat their parents, one learns precisely how to fulfill the commandment of honoring your mother and father to the utmost\u2014or the opposite. Lessons from the end of life illuminate the entire spectrum of life, at whatever point on the spectrum one finds himself.<\/p>\n
A spiritually and pedagogically healthy place to daven is one in which all Jews, whatever their age, are welcomed and, indeed, embraced. It is not the family that prays together, stays together. It is the community that prays together, stays together. This is the spiritual orientation of the Torah, which we received \u201cas one person, with one heart.\u201d<\/p>\n
Rabbi Hillel Goldberg, executive editor of the Intermountain Jewish News, is a contributing editor of Jewish Action and the author of the recently published Hallel Hakohen (Jerusalem, 2008), an unraveling of the elliptical commentary of the Vilna Gaon on the laws of mikvah. <\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Many divisions plague the Orthodox Jewish community, and many efforts at solidarity work to unite us. We need one more such effort. It will not be a new organization, a new program or a new publication. It will cost no money. It will require a spiritual reorientation. I\u2019ve davened in a variety of shuls, in […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":83,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"ep_exclude_from_search":false,"_cloudinary_featured_overwrite":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[26],"tags":[138],"class_list":["post-1017","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-jewish-living","tag-30th-archive","issues-winter-20095770"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n